Thursday, February 9, 2012

Two Ceremonies – Twice the Fun

Whether you’re getting married, given birth to a son or daughter, have reached the age of legal maturity, moving into a new house, having a significant birthday or anniversary, there’s a ceremony that makes that moment something special.

Even better, so many people feel, if you can make the moment last by joining two ceremonies together.

For many couples this might include having their wedding or their engagement party followed by a naming ceremony of their new son or daughter.

Those couples, not yet ready for marriage, but looking for a commitment, will follow their commitment ceremony with a blessing of the new house they’ve just bought together or moving into as a couple or a family.

And I’ve just discussed a renewal of wedding vows ceremony which will be joined with a ceremony dedicating the premises of the new business that they’re about to open.







Monday, January 30, 2012

Wedding Rehearsal- 5 Easy Steps

1. Bring to the rehearsal text of the complete wedding ceremony, and any accessories which are part of the ceremony, for example

a)      candles for candle lighting

b)     containers for sand blending ceremony

c)      paper roses for the rose ceremony

d)     glasses for the wine ceremony

e)      cords or ribbons for the handfasting ceremony


2. To begin the rehearsal place the whole bridal party at the ceremonial site as if the ceremony is to begin – this includes the bride and groom, the celebrant, and all the bridal attendants.

3. From that position, acting as if the ceremony has just finished, begin the recessional.

4. Having practiced the recessional several times, practice the wedding march.

5. When you’re happy with both the recessional and the processional, practice the actions of the wedding ceremony itself –

a)      father handing over the bride

b)     couple facing each other to begin their vows

c)      readers walking to and from the speaker’s stand

d)     best man handing over the rings

e)      bride and groom exchanging the rings

f)       using any of the above accessories

g)     walking to and from the signing of the register

h)     bride handing over her bouquet to the bridesmaid, and then having it returned to her towards the end of the ceremony

Friday, January 6, 2012

Memorable Commitment, Unforgettable Wedding

People all over Australia celebrated the end of one year and the beginning of another with parties big and small.

One party, however, had a bit of surprise for the invited guests. No sooner did the clock strike twelve, when another celebration was announced. The host and the hostess had decided to celebrate their togetherness with a commitment ceremony just as the New Year began.

Having exchanged their commitment vows, and with an engagement ring on the lady’s finger, the celebrant was asked to make another announcement.

It was the couple’s wish, that in twelve month’s time, and at the exact venue, the guests would gather again to help them celebrate their wedding day.



Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Choosing a Wedding Date

Couples choose wedding dates for a variety of different reasons.

It could be a matter of convenience. School holidays makes it easier for school children from former relationships or marriages to attend the wedding.

Then there are sentimental reasons. The date chosen might be the one when the parents of one of the partners exchanged their own wedding vows.

Some dates are those associated with something significant like St. Valentine's Day, last day of the year, first day of the new year, or easily remembered days such as the 11th of the 11th of the 2011.

In different cultures there are also lucky days on which to get married, which could be any day of the week.

Recently I had a couple who chose to be married on a Monday.

No, it's not their lucky day. It just happens that he was born on 11th of February, she was born on the 12th of February, 14th is St. Valentine's Day, so they chose the 13th to keep it symmetrical.

Each year they will have four consecutive days to celebrate both their personal days and their together days.

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Wedding Ceremony at Home – 10 Planning Tips

As a wedding venue, the home continues to be a popular option. Whether the wedding ceremony is held in your own  home or in the home of a friend, guests are automatically at ease at a home wedding.

If you’re planning a home wedding, here are some things you might like to consider.

1.      Decide whether this will be an indoor or outdoor wedding.

2.      For an outdoor wedding check the long term weather report.

3.      Have an alternative plan just in case the sunny weather promised doesn’t materialise.

4.      Find a focal point for your wedding party where all the guests can see and hear you.

5.     If you have a verandah your guests could stand there while the wedding party is     arranged in the garden below. Alternatively, arrange your wedding party on the verandah while the guests look up at you.

6.    If you have one, outline the aisle with chairs, carpet, potted plants, sprinkling of petals, seas shells or glitter.

7.    Place the table and two chairs for the signing of the documents where everyone can see them.

8.     If you have pets place them at a friend’s home as even the most placid of animals can become stressed when faced with a houseful of strangers.

9.     Let your neighbours know that your wedding will be taking place and there might be some noise and an influx of cars in the street.

10. Let someone take a video of your ceremony and watch it with your guests while you have your celebratory drinks.



Thursday, August 4, 2011

Naming Ceremony in 12 Easy Steps

Because a baby naming ceremony is neither religious nor legal, it can be both personal and meaningful. Here are some things to consider when planning a baby naming ceremony.

1. Baby's Name.
Does it mean something special to you or your family? Have you named your baby after someone you think a great deal of? Is the name based on your own cultural roots and you want the baby to carry on your heritage? Would you like to share that with those present?

 2. Significant Relatives.
Is the baby lucky enough to have Grandparents, or even Great Gandparents, Great Grand Uncles? What role have they played in your life, and what role do you want them to play in the life of your baby?

3. Is yours an Adopted Baby?
Would you like to share some of your experiences while waiting for the arrival of your baby? If you already have other children, do they want to make a commitment to the new sibling? Is the child old enough to make a commitment to the new family he or she has become a member of?

4. Parental Promises.
As parents, do you want to make a special promise to your child, or share with everyone your feelings or hopes for your baby?

5. Sibling's Role.
If you already have other children, would they like to participate by presenting the baby with a flower, a special toy, a drawing, a handmade gift, or just say a public 'hello'.

6. Grandparents' Promises.
Similarly with the Grandparent, or significant relatives. Would they like to read a poem, or make special promises to the baby?

7. Godparents and the Baby.
Whether you call them Godparents, Guideparents, Guardians, Sponsors, Lifeguardians or Mentors, you might like to tell everyone why you have chosen these particular people. What have they meant in your life, and what do you expect of them as the special adult in your baby's life.

8. Guests and the Baby.
Involve your guests by asking them as a group, or individually, to affirm their support to you as parents, and their support as responsible for helping to promote the welfare of the next generation.

9. Good Wishes for the Baby.
Encourage each guest to write a note of good wishes for the baby, or a way in which the guest intents to share his or her talent and time with your child as your baby grows.

10. Compiling Memories.
Start a Scrap Book for your baby and ask each guest to write a message in it. This might include a helpful hint, or a hope for the future, or a poem. Something the child will enjoy reading once he or she is able to do so.

11. Baby Naming Certificates.
Give a Certificate to all the people who you feel are connected to the baby - Godparents, Grandparents, Significant Older Relatives, cousins who will make up your baby’s life.

12. Baby Naming Programs.
As part of building of memories, create a program for each guest, personalied with  a photograph of your baby, or some significant graphic.





Thursday, July 28, 2011

Wedding Ritual - Tree Planting

 It was Joyce Kilmer who said
'I think that I shall never see,
A poem as lovely as a tree'

and there are those who give us statistics on just how lovely a tree is.

For example
  • an average tree can remove 1 ton of carbon dioxide from the air
  • a mature tree can pump 100 gallons of water from the ground and expel it into the air through transpiration
  • trees help cool the erth by cooling the ground and air around them
  • hospital patients are said to recover faster when they have a room with a view of trees
  • a family of four can get all the oxygen they need for a whole year from one average mature tree
So, no wonder couples are including tree planting rituals into their wedding ceremony.

If the wedding ceremony is in their home, they might plant the tree in the garden. If somewhere else, they might use a pot initially and later transplant the tree into their garden.

Here's a tree-planting text for those who'd like to add this symbolic ritual to their wedding ceremony.

Celebrant:
When two people meet and see each other reflected in their thought, speech and action, they recognize each other as kindred spirit they have been searching for all their lives.

It is this type of relationship which has brought (Groom) and (Bride) here today.

In committing themselves to each other, (Groom) and (Bride) see their relationship as a growing, maturing union.

They are symbolising this through the planting of a tree in soil which has been brought from the household of each of their families.

 (Tree is planted)

(Groom) and (Bride) always remember, that just as this tree needs nurturing, so does your relationship.