Friday, November 13, 2015

Lady Chatterley's Lover

Did you know that in the month of November 1960 Penguin publishers at last won their fight against the Fathers of morality and allowed to publish ‘Lady Chatterley’s Lover’?

Today’s readers would hardly blink at the sex-scenes and four-letter words which were considered so immoral in Lawrence’s time that only after much legal wrangling the book was published thirty years after the author’s death.

The first print of 200,000 copies sold out on the first day of publication. Within six weeks 2 million copies had been sold. Not to offend the rest of the public, the book was sold in a paper bag wrapping.

Some of D.H. Lawrence’s better-known books include, ‘Sons and Lovers’, ‘The Rainbow’ and ‘Women in Love’ as well as poems and short stories. One of my own favourites is ‘The ‘Odour of Chrysanthemums’. In it the author has a theme common to a lot of his writing - the isolation in which people live even when in a close relationship.




Friday, October 2, 2015

Unforgettable Lovers


PIERRE LOVES HELOISE

Born in a small village in France in 1079 Pierre Abelard was meant for the army but chose a career of learning instead. He became a wondering scholar looking for the best known teachers of his time.  Since in those days there were no universities as such, but there were some well-known schools, he tried several before settling on learning dialectic and rhetoric at the Cathedral School in Paris lead by William of Champeaux.

As a student he was brash and outspoken, constantly questioning and attacking what he was being taught.  Impatient of the traditionalists of his time his teachers found him more interested in his own theories than in what they had to say.  Far from impressing them with his clever opinions, they felt these lacked substantial scholarship to be taken seriously.  Consequently, for a long time he was blocked by the hierarchy in his endeavour to acquire a teaching position at the school.

Undeterred, he opened a school of his own waiting for the students to flock to him.  Unsuccessful, he offered himself again for a teaching position when a second vacancy took place.  Being accepted, he now began to teach dialectic and rhetoric himself.

In constant battle with his teachers when he himself was a student, as a teacher he had no opposition.  Throughout Paris he was admired for his eloquence and confidence in his own ability.  His good looks and a distinguished air did not do him any damage either.  His reputation spread.  Students came in droves, not only from France but from other parts of Europe as well.

Wherever he went he was followed by admiring throngs of students and even members of the general public.  People stopped whatever they were doing to gaze after him, the greatest living orator of his time.

Becoming attracted to Heloise, niece of Canon Fulbert of Notre Dame Cathedral, he decided to seduce her by offering himself as a tutor to her in her own home.  Since Heloise was a brilliant student Fulbert was only too eager to have her tutored by one of the best-known teachers in Paris.  On her part, Heloise already knew about Abelard by reputation as both an orator and as one whom women found irresistible.

Despite the fact that she was 22 years his junior, Heloise became Abelard’s lover at the age of 17 in the very house where Abelard was treated as an honoured guest.  As passionately in love as they were with each other, the affair became obvious to everyone except the uncle.

Despite the many rumours brought to him, he could not believe Abelard could betray his position of trust in such a way.  When convinced at last, he threw Abelard out of the house a bitter, angry and a revengeful man.

Not long after, Pierre received a letter from Heloise letting him know that she was pregnant.  Abelard was torn between his love for her and his reputation as a theologian and philosopher.  Heloise herself felt that marriage could destroy Pierre’s career, but her situation required that something be done.  While waiting for inspiration Pierre stole her from her uncle’s house to place her in the care of his own family.  Here she had their son who was later taken care of by Abelard’s sister.

Needless to say Flaubert was both grieved and outraged.  Heloise was not only very beautiful, but a highly educated and gifted young woman.  She was as interested in philosophy and logic as Abelard himself was, and as able to debate as well as he.  He mourned the waste of talent and was waiting for a chance to retaliate. 

Realising the implacable hatred that his actions had inspired in Flaubert, Pierre offered to marry Heloise in a secret marriage which, while it sanctified their union, would not change anything outwardly and would not curtail his own career as a theologian.

So, after returning to Paris, and with her uncle’s approval, Abelard married Heloise in a secret ceremony witnessed by only a few members of the family.  Despite having initially agreed to keeping the marriage secret, Flaubert could not countenance it.

To remove her from her uncle’s influence Abelard placed Heloise in the convent where she had been educated as a young girl, and where Abelard visited her in secret from time to time.

Hating to see what he felt was the debasement of his niece Flaubert struck.  Catching him while he was asleep, Flauber had Abelard castrated.  The action was no more a secret than the marriage, and Abelard, feeling himself a laughing stock among all who knew him, said goodbye to his brilliant career.  He entered a monastery while Heloise entered a nunnery.

Despite the misfortune, the two remained close through the rest of their lives.  Corresponding freely with each other, they kept in touch with each other’s feelings, emotions, and the manner of their lives.

When the buildings of their order were torn down, their bodies were moved to Paris, where the romantic French reburied them in one grave in 1817.
Extract from
'Cool Foods for Hot Lovers' by Vlady M Peters

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Honeymoon Review

Here’s a review I received on Amazon for my Honeymoon book from a professional lady, Tessa Jones.

‘This fun read is helping me plan my honeymoon to Europe. Look past the cover to the gems of knowledge inside. The author knows her stuff. A helpful guide at a stressful time.’

I’m assuming that the cover doesn’t represent what this reader expected. So I’m going to ask the Blog readers what sort of cover they'd like to see when looking for a Honeymoon book.


1. A Honeymoon in a caravan, car, railway (No, not the Orient express, this one is in Africa) liner and, of course, plane.

2. Honeymoon accommodation which includes home (yes, you can have a honeymoon at home. Just don’t tell your friends or answer the phone) hotel, bed and breakfast, palaces (and you thought only royalty could do that) and igloos (called ice castles).

3. Honeymoon for two, or three or more. It wasn’t only Wordsworth who decided that having his sister on his Honeymoon could add to the fun. Modern couples bring their children, avant garde couples invite their ex partners, attached couples bring their pets; and some bring all their guests.

4. Getting to the nitty-gritty, there’s the beach Honeymoon (with or without clothes) there’s the pub crawls (drinking your way from one part of the country to the other) the educational Honeymoon exploring Museums, Art Galleries, Salt Mines that look like chapels, Railway stations that look like Art Galleries, Miniature Worlds, Parks and Gardens to lose yourself in, and Mazes where you just get lost.

5. Follow in the footsteps of Kings and Presidents, Authors and Gamblers, Celebrities with half a dozen or more Honeymoons under their belts, Politicians and other famous and infamous personalities.

6. Find out what can ruin your Honeymoon, what can add zing to it, and how you can continue it even when you get back home.

So now, leave a message here, or email me direct at vlady_celebrant@yahoo.com.au and tell me what sort of book cover you'd like to see when searching for a Honeymoon book.
Here's the current one. Find it on Amazon.

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Memorable Celebrant

I’m really delighted to find that though ‘How to be a Profitable Celebrant: Practical Tips on Running a Profitable Celebrancy Business’ is a book written by an Australian Celebrant, American Celebrant/Officiants are finding it helpful as shown by the review below. 

‘Profitable celebrant, is wonderfully informative of what to expect being a celebrant. Ms. Peters is careful to let you know that even though there are lots of people getting married, this is not a get-rich quick scheme or business. Yes, many celebrants earn a good living, but this is a job or vocation really for a person who loves people and wishes to assist in making the couple's day special.

And yes, she does go into the details of getting your business off the ground. She gives you details about the differences between a wedding officiant and a celebrant. Where to start with marketing, as well as guidance on what to change and why. Ms. Peters has been a celebrant for a number of years and leaves nothing out.

Yes I recommend this book highly.CharLena Pearson-Fulcher, Wedding Strategist & Officiant in New York.Amazon Review
http://www.amazon.com/Vlady-Peters/e/B00EC08FL0
Here’s a companion book which I highly recommend. '1,000! Answers to Your Wedding Questions’. While ‘How to be a Profitable Celebrant: Practical Tips on Running a Profitable Celebrancy Business’ is about the business part of being a Celebrant, ‘1,000! Answers to Your Wedding Questions’ is about the Wedding Day and the Wedding Ceremony. It even includes text that goes into compiling a memorable Wedding Ceremony.

And if you want to make yourself really memorable, give the couple an inexpensive but the most appropriate gift for the occasion - a copy of the book, ‘Honeymoon! A Sizzle or a Fizzle? Prepare mentally, physically and emotionally for the best time of your life’. A true Honeymoon Planner which answers all the questions of how, when, where or why.





Saturday, August 1, 2015

Complete Baby Naming Ceremony

Ladies and Gentlemen,
Today Mark and Deidre have invited us to take part in this ceremony to express their commitment to their baby, while recognizing the challenges ahead of them.

But while a child is a demanding responsibility that often tests our patience and our understanding, it is also much more than that. A child brings joy, wonder and richness to our lives.

What pleasure there is in the feel of a newborn baby nestling in our arms, the smile of a toddler responding to our love, the small outstretched arms reaching for a hug, and a tiny upturned face planting a wet kiss on our cheeks.

Time will bring toys on floors and balls on lawns, a happy, healthy child playing in the yard. There will be bruises to kiss, report cards to praise, and drawings to display on refrigerator doors.

A child brings pleasure and wonder into the lives of those who bring it into this world. But it also means great responsibility; for what the child becomes is largely what you, as parents, bring into her life.

Promises by Parents
Celebrant:
Mark and Deidre, will you be the best, most patient and most loving parents you can be?
Parents:
We will.

Celebrant:
Will you always love, honour and respect Gigi?
Parents:
We will.

Celebrant:
Will you help her learn to love truth, even when it goes against her?
Parents:
We will.

Celebrant:
Will you cultivate in her a kind, generous and sympathetic spirit?
Parents:
We will.

Celebrant:
Will you teacher her that she is stronger than the things she fears?
Parents:
We will.

Celebrant:
Will you encourage her natural courage, curiosity, and sense of justice?
Parents:
We will.

Celebrant:
And will you model for her a healthy and loving relationship that someday she may enjoy the same?
Parents:
We will.


Reading by Deidre, Gigi’s Mother


Recognition of Grand Parents
Celebrant:
It is not always possible for grandparents to involve themselves in the development of their grandchildren - but when they do it is a great bonus and blessing.

The important role played by grandparents is the passing on of cultural values to children.

They assist children to find their identity and their inner security - and to integrate themselves into society.

The special relationship of trust and mutual enjoyment which develops between child and grandparent is something very special.

Through this relationship children learn their lineage, their history - and many values and skills.

This cultural inheritance lays the foundation for the young person to construct their personality during childhood and adolescence and adds great meaning to their existence.

For this reason Mark and Deidre wish to recognise and express their gratification that Gigi’s grandparents are here to join in this celebration.

I would also wish to take this opportunity to acknowledge those friends and family who could not be here in person, but who are here in spirit and in our hearts.


Reading by Paternal Grandfather

Promises by Godparents
Celebrant:
Mark and Deidre have chosen two very special individuals who they hope will help shape the baby’s life. Children need role models who are not their parents.

Mark and Deidre recognize that there will be times when they do not have the answers. Their hope is that their daughter will be able to turn to her Godparents, Stephanie and David Davis.

A Godparent is a wise and trusted guide, an advisor who has nurtured a special relationship with a protégé that allows for the free exchange of ideas and advice; a relationship meaningful and deeply rewarding to both child and Godparent.

Stephanie and David, will you look upon this child, with affection and will you give her your guidance, friendship and inspiration?
Godparents:
I will.

Celebrant:
Will you give her your guidance?
Godparents:
I will.

Celebrant:
Will you give her your friendship?
Godparents:
I will.

Celebrant:
Will you inspire her to do her best always?
Godparents:
I will.


Reading by Godparent

Naming Ceremony
Celebrant:
Names are an important part of everyone's life, and names are what give each and every one of us individuality.

Mark and Deidre, what name have you chosen for your child?
Parents:
Gigi Maree.

Celebrant:
Gigi Maree, your name was chosen with great care, and it was chosen just for you.

We all hope that you will inherit the best traits of your family, and grow into a caring person who is healthy and happy, and with wisdom to help you all through life.

Mark and Deidre, will you as parents care for Gigi Maree, keep her clothed, sheltered and protected, for as long as she needs you, as best you can?
Parents:
I will.

Celebrant:
Will you comfort her when she is distressed, laugh with her when she is happy?
Parents:
I will.

Celebrant:
Will you try in every way possible to raise her in such a way that she will feel loved and secure?
Parents:
I will.

Celebrant:
Tina, Robert and Timothy , here is your baby sister. Will you try to be kind to her and help look after her?
Brothers and Sister
I will.


Reading by Baby’s Siblings


Water Dedication
Celebrant:      
A small wave for your form
A small wave for your voice
A small wave for your speech
A small wave for your means
A small wave for your generosity
A small wave for your appetite
A small wave for your wealth
A small wave for your life
A small wave for your health

May all those gathered here today help guide and love this child, be her spiritual as well as her physical guardians, help her become a person with trust in her soul, belief in her heart, and faith in her mind.

Reading by Maternal Grandmother

Communal Blessing
Celebrant:
For health and strength and life,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
For friends, homes and families,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
For the beautiful sun,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
For the rain which makes things grow,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
For the woods and the fields,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
For the sea and the sky,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
For the flowers and the birds,
All:
Let us be thankful.

Celebrant:
And for all the things that makes up our lives,
All:
Let us be thankful.


I commend Gigi Maree to your loving care. Watch over her and cherish her, see she is happy and honest and true.

On behalf of all who shall know her, with the hope that she finds among us all the love and support she needs, I welcome her to this community.

Before we conclude this ceremony Rachel and Dennise a friend of the family, will sing a song.


Song sang by Rachel and Dennise


Certificate handed to the baby, the Godparents, the Grandparents, the Thee Siblings

Finally, to mark the day I would now like to ask if you would help us provide a small memento of today by writing a dedication to Gigi Maree on the canvas which is on the table. Your words may be as brief or as lengthy as you wish.

Thank you all.

Find out how to celebrate a Naming Ceremony and many other milestones in