It seems a question of perception. Those couples who haven't lived together beforehand, see their marriage as freeing them to be more than they were before. Those couples who have lived together prior to the marriage, see their marriage as being exactly the opposite - a curtailing of their freedom.
As a marriage celebrant, I have had the odd couples who managed to live quite happily for anything from five to seven to nine years without getting married. Then no sooner did they come to see me and fill in the required legal documents, than they seem to experience some doubts. Some of them went on to cancel the wedding plans. Others broke off the relationship altogether.
I often wondered whether it was a case of a relationship that wasn't going anywhere, and the decision to get married the excuse for the break up.
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